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Everyone wants to meet the baby. You're healing, feeding around the clock and running on no sleep — and saying "not yet" to people you love is hard. Pick your rules and your tone, and get a kind, clear message you can send in one tap, plus a matching sign for the door.
Step 1
It's written as "we", so either parent can send it.
Step 2
Tick as many as you like. You can edit the wording afterwards.
Step 3
All three are kind. They just differ in how much room they leave.
Your message
You can edit anything in the box before sending.
Matching door sign
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Some might be, briefly — especially if visiting a new baby is how your family has always shown love. Most people come round quickly once they understand it's about the baby's health and your recovery, not about them. A clear message sent early usually causes far less upset than turning people away at the door.
Usually your partner. Boundaries tend to land better coming from someone's own child, and it spares you from being cast as the one who "kept the baby away". That's why every message here is written as "we".
Newborns are too young for some vaccines of their own, so the people around them matter. Whooping cough in particular can be serious for young babies, which is why many parents ask close contacts to be up to date on it and on the flu jab. If you're not sure what's recommended where you live, your midwife, doctor or health visitor can tell you.
You're allowed to keep it short: "It's so kind of you to come, but today isn't a good day — we'll message you when we're ready." Saying it at the door is uncomfortable, but it's one uncomfortable moment against a day you needed for rest.
Most people want to help and don't know how. Being specific — a meal, washing up, twenty minutes holding the baby while you shower — tends to be received as a relief, not a demand.